Hello Guys! I have had quite a hiatus, apologies for that , but I am back now and ready to share my thoughts and experience as per usual. So Here it goes…
How would you feel if a friend/relative told you that in the next 24 hours you have to go and deliver a speech – in a hall filled with thousands of people – for an hour about your life?
You would be nervous wouldn’t you?
Would you be overwhelmed at the magnitude of the task?
I know I would because it seems like such a big task and I wouldn’t exactly feel comfortable sharing my life story with someone I don’t know let alone thousands of people. Now lets make it a bit interesting here, lets say there was some kind of cash incentive involved in this task, like say £5 million. You would jump at the chance right? Damn right I would! That’s a lot of money! It’s a no brainer!
A £5 million cash injection in your bank account could really improve your life, improve you physically, and so on. But can it guarantee eternal happiness? Now that’s the £5million dollar question. Money can give us options in life, but we shouldn’t require it to help us get out of OUR comfort zone. I mean I could see why it is such a comfortable place … It is where you can be yourself, primarily it is a place that you like if not love. Me personally I love MY comfort zone, I feel relaxed, I can be myself and I don’t have to do anything that will allow me to get out of it. Well this has changed because the COMFORT ZONE is a place where growth cannot happen. This year has been quite a handful for me , but one of the things I have discovered is that; I need to grow mentally, need to be confident in unfamiliar surroundings. It is about time that I remove this mask made up of fear and insecurity, that I have been wearing for so long. I have slowly started to tell myself that I can grow in my comfort zone.
Now more than ever I am eager to learn, be teachable and just help others , in all honesty I doubt I will achieve that by just adopting one approach , or at that an approach I am just comfortable with. I will have to meet people I have never met before, put myself in environments that I am not usually familiar with. After a while and even at times now, I often doubt myself and question whether I can actually push myself beyond my limits.
As crazy as this may sound, one of my fears (well still is to a certain degree) is speaking to people I don’t know face to face. Due to this I always feel so nervous about job interviews , I always dread them! … I bring myself down thinking; what can they really see in me?, or what if they realise that I’m nervous? Two weeks ago I had a job interview for an Executive role at a really good media company. When I received the email inviting me to come to the office for an interview. I was so excited at first , then after a couple days I started to think the worst:
What if when I get there, they don’t like me?
What if I market myself in a bad way?
Do they even find my CV interesting or are they just trying to fill the vacancy as quickly as they can?
I was so close to not even attending the interview because I was just so negative and lacked confidence and self-belief.
I bet you’re thinking how can one person have such low self-esteem and have such a low view about themselves. Believe me I hate myself for it, there is no reason why I cant be comfortable in my abilities and most importantly believe in myself. I have decided that I cannot continue to cripple myself with fear and enjoy the idea of being happy within MY comfort zone. I have learnt to have a positive mindset and just really do my best when it comes to job interviews and anything that set my eyes on. Understandably nervousness is commonplace when it comes to job interviews but it can be tackled by one simple thing: The mindset.
I have learnt a lot about myself over this year, One of the key things that I have grasped is that having the ‘right’ and a ‘positive’ mindset is so important in your life journey. Although I still find job interviews quite daunting and nerve racking, I do try and adopt a positive mindset about them. In the end I did go to the interview and gave it my all and ensured I looked that part too. It was tough being in that office for 3 hours, but at the end of it, I sure came out with a sense of pride and relief. I was proud of myself because I went in there and tried my best and most of all faced up to my fear.
What has this got to do with breaking out of the comfort zone? For me personally , it has a lot to do with breaking out of my comfort zone. For so long I was telling myself that I was content with my job; the workload wasn’t stressful, money was decent, I didn’t have to worry about a job interview because I had a job and most all I was comfortable. Earlier on this year I started to realise that I need to get out of this job as I didn’t feel that I was learning and I wasn’t surrounded by people who shared my values, vision and were like-minded. They were all comfortable at the job, so was I. But I knew that if I wanted to grow I had to leave. Which I did and I was so worried because I hadn’t secured a job nor saved a lot of money to help me get by. So I thought maybe it is silly of me to leave. Nevertheless I kept telling myself no matter what I have to leave.
Honestly I was so glad that I did leave, I felt more confident about myself and it really gave me a sense of belief that I am making necessary steps to break out of my comfort zone. I am currently looking for a job, but I am not looking frantically, as I know the right job offer will come along in the right time.
In this life we must always strive to learn and grow, it is good when you do things differently or learn something new. Breaking out of YOUR comfort zone is an amazing feeling and even more amazing when you accomplish the things you thought you couldn’t do. All you need to have is the right mindset and self-belief. I know it’s easier said than done and may be hard because you may be going through a difficult time. I can genuinely say to you that it is possible, this year my father passed away and I was stuck in a dead end job, self-belief wasn’t so easy to have. I was in a dark place and had zero confidence in myself. It took a few months but I realised what I needed to do in order to eradicate my negative thoughts. I started believing in myself more when it came to job interviews, started attending more social and networking events to interact with new people face-to-face and I have never felt better! I have a strong belief that I will make my father proud of the man I am today.
Getting out of your comfort zone is not something that will happen overnight, and it is not to say that you can’t enjoy the way your life is or even love your life. I would be wrong in saying that. I am merely trying to point out that we as individuals can like our lives but we must not stop striving for mental enrichment and knowledge. At times to achieve this it does mean we have to break out of our comfort zone, which is never bad. We must always remember that in doing so we have nothing to lose but much more to gain.