Are You Connected or Attached?

Ideally (well most of us) we want a partner that makes us feel good about ourselves, someone who is there to encourage us and get us through our darkest hours. It’s a good feeling right? It sure is! But what if you’re with someone that mentally or even physically drains you? 

That is probably the worst feeling ever, when in a relationship! Nobody wants to take on that title of the nagging boyfriend/girlfriend , although (in my experience) you females tend to be the one that nag the most: ‘where were you babe?’‘why didn’t you call/text me today’ .. the list goes on. Don’t feel offended as I said guys can nag too .. LOL. Nobody wants that headache, it’s not healthy and most of all it usually results in a break-up.

So tell me what is it that you look for in a prospective partner?

Good looks and charm?

A Kind and Loving nature?

Good dress sense?

Stability?

Dependancy?

Is it okay to want a girlfriend/boyfriend you can depend on, someone that can make you feel safe and secure? I think so, most people would want that and it seems perfectly normal. The only thing that I can’t get my head around is when a person is totally dependant on their partner, like for their well-being, as in they are practically living off that person.  Come on! How crazy is that , it’s almost embarrassing to tell you the truth. Financially you always need them , you aren’t physically disabled but you feel like you need them to look after you , need them to give you money, but you’re not unemployed :/

Don’t get me wrong it’s nice to be in a relationship where you feel that you can depend on your missus/mr emotionally, physically and even financially , but only when you need to be. You shouldn’t be relying on them all the time. I’m pretty sure Beyonce is not heavily dependant on Jay Z – as rich as he is! – to survive financially or even physically , she’s a global superstar … Need I Say More?

It’s okay to know that you can depend on your other half, but you shouldn’t become so attached to the point where you feel that your relationship is the ONLY thing that makes you feel happy. I am telling you now and speaking from experience, that journey can only end in disaster! The moment things go completely pear shaped you will probably be miserable,sulking all the time and have zero self-confidence.

At University, during my second year to be precise, I was that same miserable person that I have just described. I had met this girl, I liked her a lot and decided to pursue her, so long story short she became my girl. Things were going okay and I was so happy, I felt as though she completed me. Sadly things didn’t last as long as I expected, I felt so crushed and had such low-self esteem. You’re probably thinking this is normal when experiencing a break-up, which it is to a certain extent. However the reason I was so crushed is because I felt that I couldn’t be happy without her, I felt like she completed me. I was distraught, a mess and upset because I was solely dependant on her to make me happy. Happiness should come from within, as cheesy as that may sound, it’s true.

You can’t let one person solely take control of your happiness, you’re the only person that can take control of that. He/She can make you happy but you have to be happy with yourself as an individual first, whether it is through what you have achieved in your life, your career , your hobbies, whatever it is that keeps you happy. Just don’t let it be one person. Now let’s go all wildlife for a moment:

There are these creatures called Hirudineas, commonly known to us as Leeches, which are these slithering little buggers that often suck on blood as a form of survival, now if a leech cannot find a prey there is a big chance that it won’t be able to function properly. Leeches depend and attach themselves to their prey. They often stay attached until they are satisfied. Such creatures will find it very hard to survive on their own if they were unable to suck on their prey. Such a bad way to live isn’t it?

What I’m trying to say is…….

Don’t be a leech, don’t depend on someone for survival and especially for your happiness. At this point I probably sound cynical about relationships and the idea of love and happiness.  Sincerely, I am far from, I just don’t believe that it is good to solely rely on your partner to complete you , or be the missing part of your jigsaw. As I said that is a recipe for disaster! Instead you should feel a sense of connection with your partner, the relationship should have some deeper meaning. You both should be happy in the relationship, but he or she shouldn’t be the sole reason for that.

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I had to learn this the hard way, during my relationship at the time, I was so insecure and ultimately I wasn’t happy with myself. I was happy in the relationship ,but throughout I depended on her to make me happy. The break-up was a reality check and a few months after the penny eventually dropped. I soon began to realise that in order for me to be truly happy in a relationship I need to be happy with myself and most of all take responsibility for my own happiness rather than putting someone else in charge of it.

As sad and  heartbroken as I was at the time, I honestly don’t regret the experience, in fact I am glad that I went through that because it taught me a very valuable lesson: Love yourself and be in control of your own happiness.

A Relationship shouldn’t be about attachment or excessive dependancy, there needs to be a healthy balance. Rather than feeling attached to your partner , you should feel connected. Connection is important it will help you grow together and give you this sense of power. When two people are connected you join forces, your worlds collide for the greater good. Most importantly you make each other happy, but essentially you aren’t each others sole source of happiness.

This mindset has worked for me and I have never been in better space (relationship wise) than I am now. In my current relationship my girl makes me happy , because she has accepted me for who I am, but most of all encouraged me to be confident and happy with myself. This is why I feel that I am in such a good space,  I feel connected and more confident with myself as a person. I have well and truly learnt from my past and have decided to be in control of my own happiness.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Limitless

Hello Guys! I have had quite a hiatus, apologies for that , but I am back now and ready to share my thoughts and experience as per usual. So Here it goes…

How would you feel if a friend/relative told you that in the next 24 hours you have to go and deliver a speech – in a hall filled with thousands of people – for an hour about your life?

 You would be nervous wouldn’t you?

OR

Would you be overwhelmed at the magnitude of the task?

I know I would because it seems like such a big task and I wouldn’t exactly feel comfortable sharing my life story with someone I don’t know let alone thousands of people. Now lets make it a bit interesting here, lets say there was some kind of cash incentive involved in this task, like say  £5 million. You would jump at the chance right? Damn right I would! That’s a lot of money! It’s a no brainer!

A £5 million cash injection in your bank account could really improve your life, improve you physically, and so on. But can it guarantee eternal happiness? Now that’s the £5million dollar question. Money can give us options in life, but we shouldn’t require it to help us get out of OUR comfort zone.  I mean I could see why it is such a comfortable place … It is where you can be yourself, primarily it is a place that you like if not love. Me personally I love MY comfort  zone, I feel relaxed, I can be myself and I don’t have to do anything that will allow me to get out of it. Well this has changed because the COMFORT ZONE is a place where growth cannot happen. This year has been quite a handful for me , but one of the things I have discovered is that; I need to grow mentally, need to be confident in unfamiliar surroundings. It is about time that I remove this mask made up of fear and insecurity, that I have been wearing for so long. I have slowly started to tell myself that I can grow in my comfort zone.

Now more than ever I am eager to learn, be teachable and just help others , in all honesty I doubt I will achieve that by just adopting one approach , or at that an approach I am just comfortable with. I will have to meet people I have never met before, put myself in environments that I am not usually familiar with.  After a while and even at times now, I often doubt myself and question whether I can actually push myself beyond my limits.

As crazy as this may sound, one of my fears (well still is to a certain degree) is speaking to people I don’t know face to face. Due to this I always feel so nervous about job interviews , I always dread them! … I bring myself down thinking; what can they really see in me?, or what if they realise that I’m nervous? Two weeks ago I had a job interview for an Executive role at a really good media company. When I received the email inviting me to come to the office for an interview. I was so excited at first , then after a couple days I started to think the worst:

What if when I get there, they don’t like me?

What if I market myself in a bad way? 

Do they even find my CV interesting or are they just trying to fill the vacancy as quickly as they can?

I was so close to not even attending the interview because I was just so negative and lacked confidence and self-belief.

I bet you’re thinking how can one person have such low self-esteem and have such a low view about themselves. Believe me I hate myself for it, there is no reason why I cant be comfortable in my abilities and most importantly believe in myself. I have decided that I cannot continue to cripple myself with fear and enjoy the idea of being happy within MY comfort zone. I have learnt to have a positive mindset and just really do my best when it comes to job interviews and anything that set my eyes on. Understandably nervousness is commonplace when it comes to job interviews but it can be tackled by one simple thing: The mindset.

I have learnt a lot about myself over this year, One of the key things that I have grasped is that having the ‘right’ and a ‘positive’ mindset is so important in your life journey. Although I still find job interviews quite daunting and nerve racking, I do try and adopt a positive mindset about them. In the end I did go to the interview and gave it my all and ensured I looked that part too. It was tough being in that office for 3 hours, but at the end of it, I sure came out with a sense of pride and relief. I was proud of myself because I went in there and tried my best and most of all faced up to my fear.

What has this got to do with breaking out of the comfort zone? For me personally , it has a lot to do with breaking out of my comfort zone. For so long I was telling myself that I was content with my job; the workload wasn’t stressful, money was decent, I didn’t have to worry about a job interview because I had a job and most all I was comfortable. Earlier on this year I started to realise that I need to get out of this job as I didn’t feel that I was learning and I wasn’t surrounded by people who shared my values, vision and were like-minded. They were all comfortable at the job, so was I. But I knew that if I wanted to grow I had to leave. Which I did and I was so worried because I hadn’t secured a job nor saved a lot of money to help me get by. So I thought maybe it is silly of me to leave. Nevertheless I kept telling myself no matter what I have to leave.

Honestly I was so glad that I did leave, I felt more confident about myself and it really gave me a sense of belief that I am making necessary steps to break out of my comfort zone. I am currently looking for a job, but I am not looking frantically, as I know the right job offer will come along in the right time.

In this life we must always strive to learn and grow, it is good when you do things differently or learn something new. Breaking out of YOUR comfort zone is an amazing feeling and even more amazing when you accomplish the things you thought you couldn’t do. All you need to have is the right mindset and self-belief. I know it’s easier said than done and may be hard because you may be going through a difficult time. I can genuinely say to you that it is possible, this year my father passed away and I was stuck in a dead end job, self-belief wasn’t so easy to have. I was in a dark place and had zero confidence in myself. It took a few months but I realised what I needed to do in order to eradicate my negative thoughts. I started believing in myself more when it came to job interviews, started attending more social and networking events to interact with new people face-to-face and I have never felt better! I have a strong belief that I will make my father proud of the man I am today.

Getting out of your comfort zone is not something that will happen overnight, and it is not to say that you can’t enjoy the way your life is or even love your life. I would be wrong in saying that. I am merely trying to point out that we as individuals can like our lives but we must not stop striving for mental enrichment and knowledge. At times to achieve this it does mean we have to break out of our comfort zone, which is never bad. We must always remember that in doing so we have nothing to lose but much more to gain.

 

Is Materialism The Route To Happiness?

“Money can’t buy you happiness” … “Well I would drown my sorrows in a Range RoverHaven’t we heard all that before? I’m not going to just spend the next 20-30 mins telling you that Money isn’t everything and how we as individuals shouldn’t admire nice things. If I did then I would be completely talking nonsense. I personally like nice things, there is something great about walking into the shop and trying on that really nice jacket that looks fantastic on you, even if its £100. Yeah that’s right! I do like to spend money on nice things even if they are a bit pricey, I don’t see a problem with that because I like what I am buying and know that I won’t return it anytime soon.

Okay I could waffle on about what I like to buy and all that jazz, but I will choose another day to bore you (ha ha  … I’m joking). As stated earlier: “Money can’t buy you Happiness”, which is true to an extent, but it depends on what you class as ‘Happiness’, so some might believe that it does. Others might think that such a statement is total rubbish. So you see it’s all about our individual perception. There are days I picture myself driving around London in a Lamborghini or going on a big shopping spree down Knightsbridge. For now such are wishful thoughts, but I do hope to someday. I don’t think it’s wrong for people to want nice things, the only problem that I have is when we start to allow these things to consume us, to the extent we value them more than others. I will be adopting the same train of thought similar to my last post (Diamonds and Gold), as there are some similar points that need to be addressed.

When I was younger (like 16 or 17 or so) I used to always get excited when it came to Birthdays and Christmas, all I was concerned about was what present I was going to get. Admittedly when I was younger I was quite spoilt and used to sulk a lot when I didn’t get what I wanted –life of typical brat ay!. There was one birthday in particular when I actually started to think different: On my 15th birthday I remember waking up that morning in high spirits, as anyone would be on their birthday. I was excited because I had got a Nintendo Gamecube, which at the time was newest console. Later on in the day a few friends came over and we were all taking turns to play, but I wasn’t happy even though I got what I wanted. My mum had travelled that day too, so I kind of felt upset after a while because I  felt that I didn’t really get to celebrate with her properly. At that time I didn’t fully understand why I was getting so upset, it’s not like she was travelling for months it was just a week holiday!

It was only until I got older I started to fully comprehend the reason for this sadness. Presents are nice and all but nothing beats time spent with loved ones and those you value highly. These days I’m more content with spending time with my pals and just having a good time. I feel that it’s a waste of time constantly being fixated on materialistic goods.  It’s perfectly okay to want a new pair of shoes or a nice bag from Zara. But why must these things consume us? It’s not quite easy to fathom, some of us just like good things. When you’re younger I guess it’s okay to love materialistic things, because you probably don’t know any better. But as you get older you really start to understand what’s important.

There was a point when I was completely obsessed with footwear. I would always want the latest trainers without fail- I had a sense of pride when I wore the newest pair of trainers in the shops. My friends always used to hail me for having such a neat footwear collection. I felt like the man! Now I hardly buy trainers, I’m not really fussed anymore, there are far more pressing matters on my mind.

How do you live your life? Do your materialistic possessions consume you? More importantly what’s your perspective on life? I want to travel around the world and learn about different cultures. I yearn one day to start a family of my own. The way I see life now is much more different, mental stimulation and growth are way more important to me than materialistic possessions.

Treat yourself to that bag you saw the other day in the shops, those pair of loafers you spotted when you were out and about in Oxford Circus. And once in a while buy something for your missus, brother, wife, husband and so on, they will appreciate the spontaneity.  Life will feel good when we buy things to create meaning and love, rather than constantly trying to ‘Keep up with the Joneses’.

Football Focus

Last week’s action in the Premier League

Crystal-Palace-v-Leicester-City-Premier-LeagueWasn’t last week full of excitement? Well yes it was – for some teams more than others. Manchester United were certainly in good spirits last week Saturday as they managed to grab a 2-1 win at Old Trafford against West Ham. Wayne Rooney just can’t seem to keep his leg down as the newly promoted skipper received an instant red card for – what some might call a ‘fierce’ tackle.  Leicester City travelled to Selhurst Park only to find their jubilant spirits deflated as Crystal Palace defeated them 2-0. Whereas Manchester City seemed to have had a blast at the KC Stadium after knocking 4 goals past Hull City. The Tigers managed to grab 2 consolation goals, but didn’t quite have the panache to get the victory.

The derby clashes managed to end well for all sides involved as we witnessed draws at The Emirates and Anfield. Steven Gerrard almost had the last laugh with his critics after firing home a brilliantly taken free-kick to give Liverpool the lead. But Everton skipper, Phil Jagielka – in the dying embers of the game! – showed Gerrard he could bend one in too, with a stunning cracker, resulting in a 1-1 draw at full time.  Arsene Wenger almost added more grey hairs to his scalp when his side came close to their first defeat of the season. Spurs’ Nancer Chadli slotted one in to put the visitors ahead, but it wasn’t long until Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain tucked a goal away, leaving the match at 1-1 at stoppage time. Chelsea sealed yet again another seamless victory, with their 3-0 win against Aston Villa.

Matches in store for this weekend

Graziano Pellè of Southampton

This weekend’s games are undoubtedly going to have many highs and lows. Aston Villa are one of the many teams that kick off at 15:00pm, as they go head to head with Manchester City. Arsenal travel to Stamford Bridge, ahead of what might be a tough test against Chelsea.  Tottenham play host to Southampton – who have kicked off their premier league campaign with a flying start! Graziano Pelle will surely be looking to find the net again, as the forward has been looking prosperous for The Saints.  Everton trot off to the North West of England for their clash with Manchester United.

Hot Topic of the week

Both Everton’s Men and Ladies may not have got a victory last weekend, but it was the Ladies who will be finding the defeat harder to stomach, as their defeat meant relegation from The Woman’s Super League. Read here to get the full news:  http://www.gaff.tv/news/everton-ladies-relegated/

Picture: BBC Sports
Picture: BBC Sports

 

 

FIFA 15

Eden Hazard of Chelsea
Eden Hazard of Chelsea

Gaming fans brace yourselves! There isn’t long to go now until the release of EA Sports’ FIFA 15, as the popular game officially hit stores this Friday. With a range of new features and even more dynamic gameplay, gamers are most definitely going to be in for a treat once they get their hands on the new edition.

One of the many exclusive features – which I’m sure gamers will be pleased about – is that you are now able witness players showing emotion and intensity based on the events of that particular game. With over 600 new emotional reactions, you can be sure to expect  disappointment, joy and frustration displayed more uniquely by your favourite players during crucial moments – missed tackles, missed chances, penalty decisions and many more! – in the game.

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It gets even better! As goalkeepers have been completely transformed for FIFA 15, you can now expect them to be much more responsive than they were in the previous edition. There are a variety of save animations that can be witnessed, making the gameplay exciting and realistic as can be.

Tomorrow be sure to get a copy, as they – without a doubt! – will sell out fast. Once you do, make sure you get on that settee, sit back, relax, turn on your console and enjoy what might turn out to be one of the best of the lot.

 

Diamonds and Gold

gold-bar-diamonds“Show me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”... I remember hearing that line from a few movies that I have watched. I think one of them was Mean Girls (don’t judge me lol) but I can’t quite remember the other films I had heard it from. Never mind though, I am sure it will come back to me at some point. The people we call our ‘friends’, believe it or not have a way of shaping our lives – for better or for worse. I know it sounds a bit extreme putting it like that, but when you really think about it, it’s true to an extent. If we hang around the same type of people long enough eventually we start to be like them, behave like them and probably even start talking like them. As I said that could be a good thing if they motivate you and are genuinely good people. This is good, because it’s always a nice feeling knowing you have friends who have your best interest at heart and want to see you do well in life. Yeah this may sound so cliché, but there’s some truth in it right? This year so far has been a roller coaster for me, the death of my father – earlier on in the year – really hit me hard, but it was the company of my friends that helped me manage the pain.

Being amongst friends really helped take my mind off things and just numb the pain. The pain never goes away you just learn to manage it I guess. But my friends did make realise and reassured me that I had their support, they were very understanding. I appreciated this a lot because it was a difficult time for me yet they tried their best to be there for me, no matter how difficult it may have been. When you go through tough times in life it’s your friends – and family of course! – that get you through the hardship, in those times more than ever you just learn to value them even more. Do we always have to go through tough times to realise that we have great friends? No we don’t, we can also learn to appreciate our friends in times where we don’t have a care in the world or aren’t stressed with the dramas of life. The littlest of things can generally make you truly appreciate your friends. Anything from playing  Fifa 14 to sitting on the settee and having endless banter amongst ourselves about the hilariously funny performances on X-Factor, are enough to make me truly realise that I have great friends. Reason being; you can’t just have a few jokes and relax with anyone, the people you do that with are the people you respect and trust.

TRUST is very important and it is one of the many things that build strong friendships and easily break them too. Your ‘circle of friends’ are generally the people that are there for you,help you in times of struggle and help you regain your positive spark when lost. We as individuals also need to help our friends during their times of struggle and hardship. Friends are like DIAMONDS and GOLD, their precious, rare and (most times) hard to come by. I’m sounding cliché again aren’t I? Well I am sorry, I cant help it!, it’s the only analogy that I feel best describes the fundamentals of friendship. So be it! you going to have to just take my word for it. So if you know you have your DIAMONDS and GOLD, then great! I am genuinely pleased for you because it’s always a nice – great in fact! – feeling knowing that there are people you can put your complete trust in. If you don’t, this is also great! As you now have the opportunity to really evaluate who you call your ‘friends’.

You may be fond of these so called ‘friends’, may get along and sometimes generally have similar interests. In the grand scheme of things having ‘friends’ that you have a laugh with, is meaningless if they aren’t elevating, pushing or supporting you to be the best version of yourself. If you feel like that it’s okay! You just need to remember that there is nothing wrong with ‘cutting people off’, who do nothing for you. Yeah they may be upset, angry and grow some resentment towards you. At the end of the day that’s fine – and part of life. You cant be friends with everybody because not everyone is going to genuinely care about your goals or well-being enough to be deemed as a ‘true friend’. I can honestly say that I can count the amount of true friends that I have in my life on each finger on both hands. In my 23 years of life I have realised when it comes to friendships it’s always about quality and not quantity. It can be hard removing the people who you regard as clutter out of your life – I have done it myself over the years, but at times it is something that just has to be done.

As Greek Philosopher, Aristotle beautifully put it: “A friend to all is a friend to none”.

In my opinion that has to be one of the most self-explanatory and elegant quotes I have ever read. Today take a moment and just reflect and ask yourself these things when evaluating your ‘friends’:

What type of company do I keep?

Do they empower me?

Do they Support me?

Do they make me feel mentally enriched?

I have always been meditating on these questions and truly try to apply to my life and my friendships. It most certainly has worked because I don’t even think I would be writing this post with such optimism if it weren’t for my friends constantly believing in me and encouraging me to be the champion that I am … LOL what can I say I guess I just love myself too much (I’m just joking but I am sure you catch my drift)

When your done thinking about these questions and you say to yourself: “Yes they do!”, then continue to cherish and hold on to those DIAMONDS and GOLD you class as friends. If you answer is “No”, then take that step and choose to surround yourself with people who are going to help and make you become that wonderful person you were destined to be.

Football Focus

 Last week’s action in the Premier League

Picture: Yahoo
Picture: Yahoo

What a week we had witnessed! Last weekend’s fixtures were full of plenty goals and surprises to say the least. This season might just prove to be the year of the underdogs, as the likes of West Ham, Leicester and Crystal Palace have been showing the big teams that they mean business in this year’s campaign. The clash between Leicester and Manchester United was one filled with action and beautiful end-to-end football. United took the lead courtesy of two brilliant goals by Robin Van Persie and Angel Di Maria – who is showing Van Gaal and the fans that he was a valuable investment. The Red Devils’ lead was short-lived as Leicester came from behind and went all the way to grab the winner, as they fought tooth and nail for their 5-3 victory.

Arsenal continue to keep their fans happy with their unbeaten run with 3 goals – in the space of three minutes! – against a lacklustre Aston Villa side. The Gunners 3-0 win comprised of goals from Danny Welbeck , Mesut Ozil and Aly Cissokho, who accidently slotted one past Villa keeper; Brad Guzan. Daniel Sturridge’s injury woes is seemingly affecting Liverpool’s morale after they suffered a 3-1 loss against West Ham. Manchester City managed to disrupt Chelsea’s consecutive winning streak, which resulted in both sides grabbing a point. Frank Lampard proved to be a super-sub as he found the net in the dying minutes of the game, making the match 1-1 at full time.

Picture: AFP
Picture: AFP

 Matches in store for this weekend

This weekend’s fixtures will be sure to have you glued to your settees! There is an array of exciting matches. We have not only one but two derby clashes! Liverpool host Everton at Anfield just after 12 noon. Whereas Arsenal battle it out with fellow north Londoners; Tottenham. Can Chelsea get back to their winning form against Aston Villa? Villa travel to Stamford Bridge, there is no doubt that they will be looking to redeem themselves after last week’s heavy defeat. Manchester United will also be looking to restore some of their pride when they go head-to-head with West Ham. It most certainly won’t be a walk in the park, especially if The Hammers put on a repeat performance that gave them a comfortable win against Liverpool last Saturday.

In other news….

Next Gen Game Play
Next Gen Game Play

 FIFA 15 is coming out on Friday! The game is undoubtedly going to sell like hot cakes; you better grab a copy as quickly as you can. Gamers are most certainly in for a treat as the game play has improved considerably.

Time Is of The Essence

There Is No Time Like The Present
There Is No Time Like The Present

When you think about the concept of Time, what springs to mind? Some might say that it’s precious, equivalent to money, the list goes on. We all perceive time in different ways, but most of us can agree that it is precious. What we choose to focus our time on is extremely important as it can arguably affect our lives whether it’s good or bad

As noted earlier many will agree that our time is precious and how we use it is equally important. Have you ever had a moment where you buy something and afterwards you think to yourself; “Why did I waste my money on that”. We as individuals should have a similar attitude towards ‘Time’ . Your time is your time and it shouldn’t be wasted on anyone or anything that doesn’t benefit you. The last things you want to be saying to yourself is “I wish I had never …” or “If only I…” . Living with regret can be so painful and annoying at times because in hindsight you realise what you should have done and even how to do it, but sadly you will never get the chance to because you are unable to go back in time.

In that eventuality you may not be able to go back in time, but you can make a decision to start using your time in a way that will ensure you never have to be faced with such regrets ever again. ” Just as money should be spent wisely, so should ‘Time’ “ , spend your time on things that uplift and make you happy. If you feel that you are currently in a position where you aren’t using your time effectively, you don’t have to be so hard on yourself. Don’t go through life thinking that there is some sort of manual you have to follow, or a set date where you have to do things by. Never feel that time is running out (although it will run out eventually), but there is always time to change the course of your life and pursue happiness.

As I said feeling regret is normal, and yes it can be annoying, but the most important thing about regrets is that we can use it to control how we move forward from situations. Constantly worrying about what you should have done better in a situation is not going to help you tackle it. The only thing that will help you through it is what you are going to do better next time, in the event that it occurs again. Choose to spend your time in ways that benefits your life and on things that your future self will thank you for later on in your life. You may not be able to go back in time but you can always look ahead and take control of your time to fulfill your happiness. As the saying goes: “There is no point crying over spilt milk”, so spend less time worrying about your shortcomings and look ahead and think of all the possible ways you can live a great life with the time you have.

THE BORUSSIA DORTMUND INTERNATIONAL KIT 2014/15

PUMA are pleased to unveil the Borussia Dortmund 2014/15 International Jersey. This will be the official kit sported by the Bundesliga side ahead of their UEFA Champions League campaign.

The BVB jersey comes in the traditional bright yellow colour with the sponsorship logo providing the only colour contrast. This year’s jersey boasts a simple but stylish collar design which is a new look compared to the crew-neck style of the 2014/15 Home jersey.

Marco Reus Sporting The UCL 14/15 Kit
                        Marco Reus

The PUMA logo is represented on each side of the sleeves with the main one situated on the top-left. The BVB crest sits across with the two stars, which are symbolic of Dortmund’s five Bundesliga titles, directly above it.

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Inferiority Complex

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“What have I done now?” I remember saying to myself one day my manager calls me into his office. Day in Day out I always ensure I work hard to the best of my ability and most of all do what is expected of me. As the job mostly involves communicating and liaising with people, whether it be via telephone or in person, I always ensure I conduct myself in a professional manner, I am attentive and always polite when communicating. But somehow it’s as if what I do is never good enough for my manager. You know those people that never try and see the good in you? Well he’s exactly that! …Why do I feel like I am always being chastised and never praised?

Maybe he just has a big Ego?

He’s not happy with himself in life?

He suffers from an INFERIORITY COMPLEX?????

Bingo! This has to be it, I mean it makes sense. But Why? Let me tell you because it may not make much sense to you now why this can be the only reasonable explanation for his resentment towards me. He feels some sort of inadequacy about himself and as a way of trying to compensate for that he will always try and find fault in all that I do. Perhaps I have something he feels he lacks, even so that is that isn’t my problem- I cant be faulted for the way God made me (LOL).

For a while I started to feel so berated, low in self-worth and worse of all completely unfit for my job. But you know what there is no point wallowing in self-pity, with these situations I think it makes you realise why you always need to hold yourself in high regard- not in a narcissistic type of way- and believe that you are talented in more ways than you can imagine.

Why beat yourself up worrying about what people think about you let alone ONE person, that’s just giving yourself an unnecessary headache. This might be somewhat contradictory as you ideally want to make a good impression on your boss/manager or whoever it is you answer to at work. In the workplace you do tend to worry about the way you’re perceived because you just want create a good reputation for yourself and ultimately be regarded as a good employee. This is absolutely fine, but when you start demoralising yourself because someone has a ‘vendetta’ against you then you’re creating a problem for yourself.

It took me a while to understand that you never do yourself any good letting people or things get to you. You simply cant expect others to value you if you don’t value yourself. That should be like a CARDINAL RULE.

Don’t ever let people- especially your manager- make you feel that you’re worthless or ‘not good enough’ because they seem to have a ‘problem’ with the way you are. Just remember that it’s their problem to deal with and not yours. I’m no expert on human behavior, but I believe that people tend to make you feel inferior about yourself because they feel inferior about themselves. These people (like my manager) may have some sort of authority over you, so they often try and use that power to make you feel insecure about yourself. Well let it stop now! Once you know your worth you will learn to appreciate yourself more, I know I certainly have.